By Jueseppi B.
“I don’t want him to ever be forgotten.” A Grieving Cousin Speaks to Moms Demand Action
At 21 years of age, Nathaniel McKelvin III (Nate) was shot at friend’s house in Columbia, South Carolina. He had gone to the home to get a haircut. The former high school football player had just earned his commercial driver’s license and was days away from starting a new job. While sitting on the porch, a car drove by and a hail of bullets rang out. To date, no arrests have been made. His cousin, Katurah Hall, writes of the anguish her family feels.
On November 15, 2013, my world shattered into a million pieces. Why? Because of a coward with a gun.
Before that day, I never really thought about the gun control issue, one way or another, but after that day, it has become my life’s mission. That day I lost my cousin Nate. He was like my brother. We grew up together, and he was only three years older than me.
I don’t want him to ever be forgotten. I’ve never, ever, felt a pain like this before, ever. There is a hole in my heart everyday. He won’t ever see another Christmas or another birthday. We miss him so much. My grandparents had to bury their grandchild, his mother had to bury her only son. Her baby… She had to do the same for his father 21 years ago. I just can’t imagine. And all of that, because of a coward with a gun. My cousin died on a Friday. He was supposed to go leave for his new job that Sunday. He was so excited. We were all so proud. He was proud.
My heart is broken. Our hearts are broken. We miss him so much, but we know he will no longer hurt, or deal with the things in this life we have to deal with. He isn’t suffering. But this wouldn’t have happened if the people who shot him didn’t have a gun. My cousin wasn’t a thug or a hood. He wasn’t just another black man shot in the news. He was a student, a hard worker, an uncle, a son, grandson, cousin, brother, best friend, and so handsome. We love and miss him.
But what hope for a world free of gun violence is there if 20 babies could be shot and killed in their school? If my cousin could be gunned down at a friend’s home? How can I find justice for him, if it seems those in charge are powerless or don’t want to help? We love him, always will. There will be justice. I can’t tell you when, or how, but somehow, all of us who are missing a loved one because of gun violence will find justice and peace.
If you or anyone you know has been a victim of gun violence and would like to share your story with Moms Demand Action, please email firstname.lastname@example.org.